It’s New Year’s Eve day and many of us will write, read and share posts, notes and tweets that focus on traditional resolutions for the upcoming year. We’ve all seen or made them before – promises to eat better, exercise more, talk less – and they’re always made with the best of intentions. Yet they are driven by little more than timing. I mean, it is the New Year, right?
This post is not about that.
What I’d like to offer is an invitation to think about “right now,” to step back and reflect upon what’s most important to you today, at this moment. Ask yourself that question – What’s most important?
Perhaps right now the most important thing that you could be doing is to take a nap or a walk. Perhaps what would make your moment would be to eat that last piece of chocolate layer cake for breakfast (I’m all for that!). What is the one thing, the one “do” or “be” that will shepherd you into a place of well-being and contentment?
So often we hold ourselves hostage by the promises we make to ourselves. I’ve been there myself, caught in a loop of trying to lose the same [fill in the number] pounds for the last six years. If it was the most important thing – really…the MOST important thing – then I would have accomplished it some time ago. Other concerns, or goals, or distractions have moved up the ranks somewhere along the way and have made themselves more important.
What’s most important?
It’s a question I often use to begin a coaching session. Of all the things leaders encounter each day, there’s always a “most important” that trumps all others. Focusing on that usually opens the way for other concerns to fall away or slip in prioritization. But after we unpack it, examine it and address it—that most important item—there often comes the sense of clarity needed to get to the other stuff.
There will be plenty of posts today and over the next couple of days that will invite us to plan and make new goals for ourselves, and I look forward to reading them. Goals, too, are very important. Goals are good. We need goals to propel us forward.
This is more about pausing. This is about awareness and, more importantly, self-awareness. It’s about taking a moment to fully understand what you can be doing or being right now. What’s most important?
My wish is that we will ask ourselves that question over and over again in 2012.